Everyday Contentment

 Savoring Simple Daily Pleasures



I have spent an unforeseen week home this week with a pesky seasonal illness. Thankfully, these days, nothing serious, and I was fortunate to be seen by my Doctor promptly.  It is unprecedented for me to "stay home sick", in that, with perhaps the exception of raging tonsilitis as a child, even if I am away from work or school, I still ALWAYS manage a short excursion for a walk or fresh air or similar daily.  This week has knocked me, yet provided me the circumstances which I have allowed myself to rest completely- mostly being incapable of much exertion, and just be home.  I'm not much for TV, so I have gently pottered, enjoyed having the time to write some more, and read several books! 


Two of the novels I have read recently, paired with a brand new book on living a frugal but still luxurious life, have contained such strong themes and messages from a similar post war era, that it is hard not to allow ones mind to wander and imagine how much simpler life may have been. 



Please don't misinterpret me here- In many, many ways, the distance we have covered, the progress we have made and the advancements in technology and medicine are mind-blowing and extraordinarily valuable to our modern lives. I would not rush to have to tend to my laundry by hand as my grandmothers did, or to be expected not to work after marriage, or to associate with classes of other people not of my own social standing, or, to potentially die from the flu I've struggled with this week. No no no. BUT; 

There is much comfort to be had and, in my opinion, much worth and value to be found in everyday rituals, standards, expectations, to an extent - conformity, and an accepted and well-trodden routine.



One thing I have enbibed in more than usual this week as I have had the time to do so is partaking in tea throughout the day. Pots and pots of it! In these stories and indeed as we know historically- for the British, Tea solved most problems- or at the very least, started the solution process! 

Tea was taken to quench, revive, restore, comfort, celebrate, for births, deaths, breaking the ice, to show fortitude, sympathy, on a hot day or to warm a wintry one, because it was 2pm... or anytime of day really up until evening when perhaps some would take a herbal infusion or similar. 

There weren't other drinks readily available, and one didn't snack. A substantial afternoon tea may have been enjoyed, but other than that it was 3 modest meals a day- across all classes except maybe the very very impoverished. 



Post war, many items were unavailable, unobtainable or unthinkably expensive. Dripping may have been used on bread as opposed to butter- waste was frowned upon, so the added nourishment and (What we'd now would probably call collogen enriched - or rich beneficial nutrients left from the cooking of beef or pork.) vitamins and animal fats were used in their entirety. 

Meals were seasonal, often vegetables were home grown, and the leftovers from joint of meet cooked on Sunday after church would be transformed into several other dishes throughout the week.

One description in the novel was hotel guests taking broth on the terrace before luncheon- bone broth has made a justified re appearance in recent years and this inspired me -while feeling under the weather- to make a big pot of chicken soup today. So as I type, it's gently simmering away on the stove in my trusty cast iron Dutch oven, permeating the house with its comforting aroma.  Other than the sprinkle of chili flakes and a dash of paprika and turmeric- now we are wiser to the benefits of these spices, its simply some diced carrots and onion and an odd potato along with the chicken frame and the meat left on it, they are humble ingredients indeed. I will finish it off later with some watercress given to me this week and enjoy it as a nourishing, healing supper alongside a crusty roll and butter later this evening. 


There is much comfort to be taken from pairing back and living simply- even just periodically or momentarily. During a power cut - candles, book, a roaring fire in the grate and water boiled on the gas stove for - yes- tea, then snuggling up in bed listening to the wind- at a decent time as we are not caught up or sucked into a gripping show on TV or such. 

Preparing a simple tart with homemade pastry and fruits form the garden- the joy and satisfaction - and PRIDE- that is felt with such simplicity. 

A posy of flowers from the garden- nasturtiums or blousy roses, lavender or flamboyant peonies. The pleasure derived from the picking, the arranging and then enjoying them and their delicate Frangrance in the Centre of your dining table or a bud vase on your nightstand to start and end your days. 



Sitting in a peaceful spot at home and reading the Newpaper.

Children playing together in the neighborhood- outside, building dens, climbing trees, dressing dolls. And sweets or lollies were a HUGE treat. Perhaps a Weekly excursion to the shop with pocket money or a sugar mouse at Christmas. Our idea of a treat is a daily occurrence in these modern times. we feel hard done by without!

Heavens- even giving a new life to an item of clothing by repairing it yourself . 

Cold cream as a full beauty routine, pressed powder and rouge or lipstick as the only cosmetics. When I think of the lotions and potions stashed in drawers and vanity's between my two daughters and I.....

Many of these activities and rituals can be recreated today, or we can consciously be grateful for the conveniences we are used to in the western, or 1st world- flushing toilets, hot water from a tap, most households own a car, modern medicine, telephones (or not), a washing machine, a dishwasher, and oven which doesn't require coals!



We live lives of abundance, modern abundance- so many of us have more than we could every really use or want. We don't wait for things to run out or break, to fix or replenish is overlooked. We have come to expect things instantly-  emails not postal service, online shopping- gosh when I first moved here Sunday trading was newly introduced and many shops and business closed on Mondays. Nothing would have been "late night" and the pharmacy was the local one, where they knew your name- not a place the size of a warehouse. 

Sunday best outfits and one pair of shoes. Even my mother and mother in law grew up placing cardboard in the soles of their shoes to eek them out until it was budgeted for a new pair before a new school year. 

So while I'm not suggesting we go backwards- I'm suggesting we pause, and just take a moment to think what life may have been like- think back to your ancestors, or more recent past generations- and either develop a new appreciation for something you do or use daily with ease and little effort, or consider how to revive or reinstate an old tradition, ritual or simpler routine into your modern day life. 

Many things have faded out I wish were still around- common courtesy's extended- holding open a door, greeting people properly, standing when someone enters a room, respect for your elders, no swearing, news reporters with good diction, table manners. I'm not viewing these olden day times though rose tinted spectacles necessarily- times were tough, brutal for many, post war left millions grieving or injured, food scarcities, all of those harrowing scars. But there were simple, cherished elements we can enjoy and perhaps incorporate today. 

At the very least immerse yourself in a book set in those times or other historical fiction- an old copy of Good Housekeeping, or Mrs. Beatons household management, and appreciate the struggle, elbow grease and equally the simplicity of how life was, and what qualities would enrich your life today if you were to introduce one or two.......... 

Now, I'm off to check my chicken broth, and make another pot of tea. (To wash down my 2024 medically advanced antibiotic!) 







 Savouring simple daily pleasures



A little extra post-


The very essence of this blog is about cultivating contentment, appreciating and taking time to notice the littlest of things and practicing our daily gratitude of these treasures. 

I find myself unexpectedly home today, while I try to heal from a seasonal virus- the house is blissfully quiet after the bustle of herding the family out to work and school, the cats are puttering in and out, all the doors and windows are open allowing the fresh spring air to circulate, the dust motes to dance in the suns rays and the chirrups of the local birdlife (Especially vocal are the Tuis and Kingfishers today) to penetrate the only other sounds of a ticking clock, the gentle babble of our stream, and the distant sound of a dog barking, or rooster crowing. 



I am sat with a favorite china cup and saucer and a comforting brew (T2 New York Breakfast) and while not feeling my best, the true feeling of peace and contentment and a deep appreciation of the sanctuary of my home fills my cup to overflowing.

The simplest of pleasures in watching the cats in the garden, feeling the delicious fresh breeze and knowing I have several hours in which to rest, steep in the wonderful feeling, and savour every moment of it, is equally as healing to me as the vibrant green juice I shall prepare later to ward off the bugs. 

Granted, I am a true home body, so a day like this is always a treat and something to be grateful for in my book, but the principle can be applied to all of us. To seek out the beauty in our everydays, to enjoy the satisfaction of a fresh folded load of laundry, a task accomplished at work, a nutritious meal prepared and presented thoughtfully to those we share our lives with, a picturesque commute, the perfect coffee, a hot shower after a long day, the fist dip in the ocean of the summer- or whiff of woodsmoke in the autumn, a favorite seasonal dish or vegetable, dining alfresco. The possibilities are endless, we just have to be conscious to notice them, appreciate them, exercise gratitude, and not take these life moments for granted.  Its these moments that make up our lives- the more joy we can find in them, the more joyous and contented we become. 




If we are to look at the dictionary definition of contentment- depending on the search engine, a few possibilities are presented-

"A state of being in which one is satisfied with their current life situation, and the state of affairs in ones life as they presently are."

"Happiness and satisfaction, often because you have everything you need."

A spiritual take is "The acceptance of things as they are as the wise and loving providence of a God who knows what is good for us, who so loves us as always to seek our good"

Even if faith is not a part of your life- "seeking our good " and that of our surroundings and those we are surrounded by, can only be a positive thing, and a vital tool in mastering contentment. 


"A state of happiness and satisfaction"


Synonyms are: Replete, ease, gladness, equanimity and peace.




We are- often unconsciously -bombarded throughout our days with being told and persuaded what we should need and want: That we are not enough, that our *** Insert here** isn't the latest, fastest, shiniest, slimmest, most fashionable, most current whatever it might be. If we were to channel that energy into appreciating and taking care of those things we do have, our lives would be so much richer for it- metaphorically and our bank accounts!

The space this day has afforded has already sparked inspiration for a further book idea, and instigated this extra post- I have a strong desire to do some organizing and sorting too but for now, its time to pop my screen away for a little while, hang another load of laundry out, and perhaps pick up my book or just sit outside and tip my face to the sun for a few moments. Being in nature has an incredible way of facilitating restoration. Always available and ever present. 

No doubt a furry friend will come and keep me company too. 


Have a wonderful week.



 Savoring simple daily pleasures



As we approach the change in seasons in earnest- with days getting longer and warmer and, thank heavens, the clocks changing next weekend, I've been bust thinking about switching out my wardrobe and giving some thought to style, and what makes us feel good to wear: for our size, shape, tastes and lifestyle. 


My journey of a no buy year (with the odd hiccough!) this year has helped me to hone in one the styles I prefer, the colours and hues that suit me and my skin tone, and the overall essence of what makes me feel confident and pulled together. 



I know any people have "had their colours done", which is something I have never invested in as such. Being from an artistic background and family, the use of colour is something which comes naturally to me and is instinctive. I think most of us know when we try on a garment if it makes us feel good, if the colour compliments our skin or washes us out, if the pop of colour is something we can feel confident with. I cant wear orange or anything lime green for example- but burnt orange and rusts or olive greens are colours I enjoy wearing- especially in the autumn. 

Its become apparent my winter pallet consists of some key items which can mix and match with each other in a variety of combinations and looks. 

Tan, cream and off white

Navy and dark denim

Black and white

Olive green and greys

Nautical stripes

And for pops of colour, a bright red and a shocking pink make an appearance - sparingly. 

Leopard is always a good idea, in moderation, and in my book is a neutral. 

Most of these colours can transition into spring summer too, with a heavier lean on the creams, whites and lighter denim. 



Even with trying not to purchase anything new in the past 9 months during this no buy year, and with regular declutters and culls of my seasonal wardrobe, I am itching to get into it next month when I have time for a wardrobe overhaul and to try to hone it right back to the minimal (within reason!) capsule wardrobe I historically was so disciplined about. For years I practiced the 10 item wardrobe and gradually it has built and gathered and increased back up again to many many items. 

Half my problem is I think I have rather a good eye for a bargain and also for a second hand/ pre loved gem, and when I get that lovely rush of endorphins after scoring an absolute steal of a quality, timeless well-made garment, I find it really hard to let that go and admit that its surplus to requirements... or doesn't fit, requires repair or alteration, doesn't quite suit me etc. if its something I know is high quality and I paid a minimal amount for! I need to be strong and re home those items. I can think of two in particular right now hanging in my wardrobe- a grey/ mushroom colours silk blouse with black trim. Its beautiful quality, and fits me, but is a little dull and I'm not sure it does much for me- its not exiting or a statement or classic enough to be kept- If I'm brutally honest its still there because I know it would have been a few hundred dollars originally, is well made and above all 100% quality silk. None of those are really good enough reasons to be taking up valuable hanging space. 

Id like to get back to a point where there is ample space between hanging garments, so nothing needs sliding along to retrieve an item, where I know exactly what I've got as there isn't so much that I forget about pieces that I own. That everything fits me well, suits me and I LIKE it. Including shoes. ( I have a teeny tiny problem with a shoe addiction) 

I also have several items that were thoughtful gifts that aren't quite right, or hand me downs that were a generous idea but not me, or things I've worn and loved so much they've lived their life, or styles that are not me- that are just not me. Its hard to tune into some times but you know when you put an outfit together if you feel good. I'm talking confident, spring in your step, comfortable and stylish as well as functional. We all have one or two outfits we know we feel a million dollars in. All our clothes should make us feel this good- not a little uncomfortable, or self conscious, or require constant tweaking or adjustment thought-out the day. Effortlessly stylish and US. 



I have a confession: I recently purchased a pair of espadrilles for summer- purely for nostalgic reasons. I have vivid memories of one summer growing up, a hot true English summer that began in May and ended in September, with warm days, twilight humm of lawnmowers at 10pm, hot air ballons and peach juice dripping down our arms- and for that summer I wore a pair of yellow and white striped espadrilles. When I saw these, I had to have them- and I cannot wait to put them on as the weather turns and the ground dries out form all our recent heavy rains. They feel like carefree childish joy. 

Who says clothes aren't emotional! They are something we wear and have to consider and select in some capacity every single day- why not enjoy the process!? 


I shall update you all in a week or two once I've started my mission!





 Savoring simple daily pleasures



As the school term starts to wind up,  the clocks are yet to change for spring time, and our calendars seem to start filling up on the speedy downhill to Christmas - (which, in this part of the world, is also the completion of the academic year, awards, prizegiving's, contracts ending or renewing, dance showcases, school productions, work functions and social engagements,) its all too easy to get swept up in the business and urgency. This is when stepping back, taking a deep breath and assessing priorities, clarifying expectations and reevaluating how best to balance it all, while keeping our own internal peace. Endeavoring not to over commit or ware ourselves out entirely. Its ok not to say YES to everything. 




Needless to say we cannot negate and avoid the busyness in its entirety, but we can set ourselves firm boundaries, and with practice, allow a period of rest following the larger or more taxing events. 

This isn't to say we cannot enjoy them, we just know in ourselves what our personal limits are. I have a friend who absolutely thrives on the go go go and multiple commitments in an evening, racing here and there and eating late and sleeping later- I know for me, that is a sure fire way to fuel my anxiety and pretty much guarantee burn out- all without really enjoying any of the fun stuff as I'll be too busy fretting about the next thing and feeling drained! Personally, I try to schedule a quiet day or evening prior to, and if possible, post, a big event or late night, as a buffer and a self-preservation technique!



I am due to play golf this afternoon- the sun is shining, and I do so enjoy it. However I have had to ensure I really pause first: By chance I have the house to myself for an hour or so - a rare thing these days- so I have  taken time to make a delicious coffee, light a candle, a sit near the open French doors with the cats pottering in and out, the birds in the garden and the washing gently whirring in the laundry while I type this. There are a million things on my to do list and I know however good and enjoyable my round is later, I will return home tired, as the light fades for the day, and those things will still be looming. However, I know I will be able to tackle them a little more positively with a bit of space and organization prior to heading out. If I can get a head start on dinner, fold the dry laundry before I leave, and tick one or two little tasks off my list before I go, it will seem much more achievable and less daunting at 6pm on a Sunday night with a hectic week ahead. 

For me, the pause, the reflection, and having a plan- will all help me sail through this week with less stress and less unknowns. 

To do lists- with realistic goals- you wont get ALL the housework done if you want to be in bed by 9.30pm. But you might manage to water the plants and defrost the chicken for tomorrow and prepare a salad to grab for lunch the next day. 

On that: Make sure on the busiest of weeks what you plan to cook for dinner are crowd pleasers- family favorites. Simple to prepare, least dishes, and you know everyone will enjoy them. 

 If you know you wont be home till 8.30pm how can dinner be quick and easy? - Maybe take out/slow cooker/ salad/ soup or something from the freezer.

 Limit the pile of laundry for that day to just the towels- there are so much speedier to fold and pop away then a jumble of socks and endless tee shirts and school shirts. 

Look though your diary for the next week and then the following- ensuring no surprises pop up that you'd forgotten about- a dental appointment at an inconvenient time, a friend's birthday you need to purchase a gift for, the car being serviced- whatever it might be, anticipate and plan for it and the stress will be hugely diminished. If needs be, reschedule what you can for a less full week. 

I also need to remind myself that while planning is a very helpful tool in many respects, we mustn't get so tied to our list and schedules that we are inflexible and the slightest curve will throw us off completely. I'm a shocker for this if I'm honest. On a busy day even an extra half an hour I hadn't predicted can send me into a spin! This is when we need to re group, pause, and allow ourselves the grace to see the wood for the trees and most importantly be gentle with ourselves. We are doing our best. And that's all we can do. 



Acceptance of that and letting go occasionally of ideals is all part of that journey. I wanted to have a few quite hours to peacefully sit and write, blog and potter this weekend. Its hasn't quite happened, but I have managed to tick off some productive tasks that were on the periphery, and visit with my Mother briefly, as well as a few impromptu things- like taking advantage of the weather before the rain set in later than was forecasted yesterday, and tackling the lawns and the driveway shrubbery. Not on my list per se, but a valuable and productive use of my time nevertheless. 

The weekend has sped by, but It has also been wonderful and diverse and peppered with gourmet food, friends, nature and quiet time at home. And a full blissful 8 hours of sleep last night. 

Now though, It is time for me to get my clubs organized, skewer some potatoes ready for the oven, and blow out the candle. 

I have been pondering our wardrobes, and having a color palette that works for us uniquely- even seasonally , so next weeks post will be wardrobe based I'm thinking!




 


 Savoring Simple Daily Pleasures

When I gradually awoke this morning, I'm fairly certain I had a smile on my lips before my eyes even fluttered open. Somewhere in my subconscious I knew it was Saturday, and as I began to awaken, I became aware of the gentle dawn light, the bird song, and the delicious knowledge it was the weekend. 



Early Saturday morning is possibly my most favorite time of the entire week. The weekend stretches ahead- even if its a busy one, usually I've had a little more precious sleep than a regular weeknight. In those precious, treasured quiet moments on a Saturday, my sincere gratitude for the life I am living seems to almost brim over. 

As I lay there deliciously cosy this morning, before even stretching my limbs or turning to see if my beloved was also awake, I was flooded with thankfulness and contentment for the simplest things I was able to enjoy and savor. Dawn light creeping though our open drapes earlier and earlier as we approach the summer months, the birds equally glad of it and singing their unique songs- the Tuis, Black Birds and the Thrushes are providing a musical delight. The house and neighborhood are still and quiet, the sky is shades of gray with rain on the horizon, and my day will involve simple tasks, activities and pleasures- walks, coffee at a favorite cafe, housework, writing and preparing a nutritious family meal for this evening before a bubble bath and climbing into freshly laundered sheets with my book. 

I took a rare moment to sit up in bed watching the birds sipping a hot lemon water, discussing the day and various other things with my husband before rousing a daughter for her Saturday job, and getting ready for a walk with a friend. 

I couldn't describe a more perfect day really, even if I was to design my ideal early spring weekend at home. Add in weather conducive to hanging laundry on the line, a spot of golf, time with my family, and mowing the lawns, sprinkle in some home baking and time for a pot of tea and wrap it up with the contented and accomplished feeling of a clean home, a fully stocked kitchen and being organized for a new week by Sunday evening, and you have the magical formula! Very uncomplicated really!

Simple everyday luxuries. 



Other than the negligible cost of the coffee (And we must remember for little indulgences like this we aren't just paying for the coffee, but the ambience, service, view and atmosphere- the ceremony and ritual of walking the nearly 5 Kilometers, uphill mostly, for the reward of the perfect oat milk flat white, and the less challenging return trip,) the morning hasn't cost a thing. 

Much of this is down to mind set, if we choose to see these moments of simplicity as something to savor, as something special and to be cherished and appreciated, life becomes all the richer for it. 

Choosing to notice all the things we can miss if we are too concerned with what others deem as luxurious or special. Look up at the night sky, watch the suns rays pierce through a cloud, take note of how you feel at home when you are relaxed and contented, when you have people you love close by, when your laundry smells of fresh air and sunshine, when you notice those first shoots of spring or the tight bright buds suddenly appear on the trees after wintering, equally as the greens turn into the golden hues of autumn-  Soak it all up, breath it in. These gems and jewels, these "ordinary" moments are what make up our everydays and they are equally special. 



While the seasons begin to show their changing more prominently, I am enthusiastic about having some time to have a thorough spring clean over the next few weeks, getting the house ready for summer, cleaning and re arranging out door furniture and tending to the garden and some planting, and a task I get huge satisfactions from- changing out my seasonal wardrobe- flushing out any clutter, rehoming items, streamlining, and being reunited with old favorites which have been stored away. 


3 more weeks of school term then a break to really savor, change pace and embrace the coming summer and all its gifts.  I cannot wait!






 Savoring simple daily pleasures




As I spoke about in the previous post, we are on the back of an exceptionally busy and full week, so I am bursting with gratitude that I am sat typing this in the warm sunshine, at a beach house, in shorts and bare feet! What a difference just a few days can make- my Thursday post was written cozied up in bed with a storm lashing!



 Last evening sent winter off with a bang as another dramatic thunderstorm shook the house, and this morning we woke to a bright fresh spring day, with a warmth in the sun we haven't felt these past several winter months. Its off season here, so we are enjoying total peace and relaxation, with the feeling of tranquility washing over us. Its not yet even 24 hours since we arrived and we all feel like we have enjoyed a true mini holiday already- our toes are thawed from the cold that's now past, the doors and windows are thrown open, alfresco dining and even a new bottle of sun lotion purchased. 




Its father's day here, paired with the first day of Spring, but long before our girls surfaced for the day, my husband and I watched the dawn over coffee/ hot lemon water, and headed up the 'Mountain" to watch the spring unfold from this majestic vantage point. 



The scale of the horizon and the unimaginable beauty were truly awe inspiring- and after this crazy, fraught, week, the sights and smells and sounds melted it all away. Just the two of us, feeling the warmth of those first spring rays, trekking up a reasonably challenging hill, and the knowledge we had the whole day- and part of tomorrow, stretching out before us was like a balm to the soul. We ended up taking the scenic route back down- taking far longer than we anticipated and involving a fair amount of scrambling and the final stretch across the rocks at sea level, to meet our two daughters for coffee. What a perfect way to celebrate such an incredible father - and husband- in such an unrushed way that we were able to really savor, and soak up and deeply appreciate it.  The offset of the busyness of the previous week made it all the more special and treasured. 





It is so important we remind our selves regularly that happiness is only an exterior thing- that we certainly can enjoy- often fleetingly but hopefully frequently, but contentment is from within. We can choose to be content each and every day. It has no strict permeameters, relays on no other body or soul, and is entirely up to us as individuals to tune in, nurture, and practice contentment each day. Easier on a blissful day such as this, less so racing round against the clock in the driving rain and cold, with a stressful work week trying to drain you and suck the positivity and the core of our contentment. 



But its always there, however the practice of tuning into it multiple times a day is something we need to be reminded of. To actively choose to rewire our brines, form these new pathways and keep retreading them so that they are so familiar to us we need less of a push to frequent them regularly; the practice becomes something we do several times a day- not quite sub consciously, as its vital to keep present and mindful of this feeling, but that it becomes so natural to look for the good, appreciate what we have, and be in the present- second nature. 


This ties in to the acceptance of our limitations and knowing and understanding our own limits- this week I wasn't kind to myself, and I knew better than to over commit to that extent. We need to get to know ourselves equally on this journey of contentment and peace, as part of being able to live a contented life is about a deep understanding of ourselves, who we are, what makes us tick, what we need to flourish and how best to carry ourselves through this life, in a kind and gentle way - we are the only beings capable of bringing contentment to ourselves- no one else can provide that. I'm now in my mid 40's and I think I'm only just starting to really know and begin to deeply understand myself- and have the confidence to allow my inner voice to be head when its required. To do that is brave, its brave to make yourself venerable while equally standing your ground. Its challenging to go against the grain- but if that's how you truly feel, and what you deeply believe is right for you- don't be drowned out. 



So, this daily practice has to be completely individual to you. And it will change and evolve and keep re shaping as we learn and grow and age. Its never a done deal. Its a habit, a healthy habit to carry with us for our entire life. And its never too late to take it up. 


With that, I'm going to wander down to the estuary now the tide has come in again, to watch the sea birds and my family frolic on the waves. 

Till next time. 

 




 savoring simple daily pleasures




I plan to write a further post over this coming weekend, with the luxury of time and an abundance of fresh sea air. But tonight I felt compelled to just jot down some thoughts on my experiences this week. 

I thought I was tuned into my limitations and necessities in regards to social commitments and filling my days and calendar. I am usually mindful of spacing events and engagements out. This week snowballed. I work full time, we are just coming through the depths of winter into the first glimmers of spring- so all a little fatigued, fighting off constant colds and winter viruses, and feeling thoroughly "wintered". 

(As you may know, I love and embrace all the seasonals equally for their own beauty qualities and uniqueness, but this doesn't always mean fatigue wont set in when dark mornings become a little more tiresome, evening chores a little more taxing, and a natural longing for warmth, unfurling,  and that delicious feeling of unfolding and stretching out - much like a new butterfly , emerging from its cocoon- ready to absorb and embrace the welcome wonders of spring.)

Foolishly, it turns out, (and I absolutely should have known better) I over committed. With an extra activity, social engagement, dance class, meeting, errand, appointment, entertaining or organizational tasks doubling op on every night of the week after a full days work, I hit an absolute wall when the last straw was an atrocious nights sleep- resulting in me decamping to the guest room to try to sleep in the early hours- something I have not done once in all our 20 something years together! 

Today I struggled to function efficiently all day. My mind kept drifting, my tasks we shoddy at times, I was snappy and even irrational. I held it together, performed my various duties and just about made it through my to do list before a delicious hot shower, and tucking myself into bed very early to write this, watching the room light up with dramatic flashes of lighteneing and bone shaking, house rattling rolls of thunder.  I couldn't be cozier or more content. 



I am wrung out, and a little annoyed with myself for not having the foresight to plan better. However, it has served as a valuable reminder, and I am so fortunate to be looking forward to a brief get away this weekend, of utter relaxation and time by the ocean with no plans or time constrains whatsoever. 

So, now to my new book chosen at our book club this week, for all of about 2 minutes before my eyes inevitably start to close. 


I have a quote written in chalk on the kitchen menu black board which is rather apt for this particular post-

We can do ANYTHING, but we cant do EVERYTHING. 

How true. I'd do well to remember that. 



 Savoring simple daily pleasures


Ok. I need to come clean. 

I started off with determination and gusto on my journey of a NO Buy Year. I was staunchly adamant that I would see it though without faltering. ....

That may have been a little ambitious.


I have continued to be mindful and very conscious with the items I have bought- and for at least the first full 6 months I stuck to within the parameters I'd allowed myself:

NO new purchases unless- replacing a frequently used item that has worn out or beyond repair, replacing athletic wear/ running shoes, or a pre- loved purchase for a wedding - or other significant event. 



Recently - for no other reasons that I can determine other than a sense of fatigue and an anticipation of a new season, a clarity of my own personal style, and, if I'm brutally honest, a longing for the buzz- the endorphins a new purchase can make you feel, I have succumbed to the very temptations and reasons I chose to embark on this challenge in the first place.


While I do, certainly, feel an element of guilt, and a little disappointment, that I have got to late August and have temporarily fallen off the wagon, I still feel I have learnt and grown though the journey thus far, and It is not a failure, and it isn't over yet. I am far more present and intentional with what I di peruse and choose to  cheat with. they are not impulse buys or stand alone items- they genuinely fill gaps and provide a solution, and are all the more appreciated and values- savored - for it. 

I will list below the items I have purchased (some of which I have mentioned in a previous post) and my thought process behind them, in an honest effort to, in some way, justify them:




 Running shoes

I have purchased 3 pairs of running shoes since January, and most recently my favorite brand ON, was having a sale, so while I didn't strictly need them, yet, They were a very good deal, and one of the pairs were a specialist waterproof trail shoe. Now, anyone who's been following EVERYDAY CONTENTMENT for any length of time will know, I walk, a lot. I run most morning and I walk every day without fail, regardless of the weather. So, I do truly ware running shoes out with frightening regularity. (Quality, well-made running shoes are not an inexpensive purchase!)


Cashmere Sweater

Upon perusing a charity shop/Op shop/ Good will store, I came across a pure cashmere, Pilar box red, scoop neck sweater. I needed it. It was very inexpensive, I didn't have that color in my wardrobe, and it was beautiful quality from a well-known, high end brand. Having carefully laundered it, and getting my darling Mother to repair two small holes (I am no seamstress) I have worn it several times already- its warm, cozy, a beautiful fit, and provides a wonderful pop of color under a blazer. I simply couldn't leave it there. 



Velvet Tuxedo jacket

An item I have long been Coverting for my wardrobe- such a versatile timeless piece; chic over jeans, or classic over evening wear. One came to my attention purely by chance, at a heavily discounted price. So, I bought it. I am yet to wear it but my husband and I have a couple of elevated evening events to attend over the next few weeks so I feel sure it will make its debut. 




Black leather Chelsea boots

I had been struggling with a gap which only classic black Chelsea boots could fill. My old Chelsea boots were past their best and long since donated, and the existing ankle style boots I had were in Olive green, Navy or Taupe. All lovely and different in their own way -but none in black. The only black I have are very high heel evening style bots- definitely not a style I would walk the 4Kms round trip to my place of work which I do more or less daily. So, again, a trusted brand- I have several other pairs of shoes by them, Sol Sana, popped up on sale, so I took advantage. They are beyond perfect. Day one I wore them with just thin stockings to walk to work, a full day on my feet and the walk home- the really telling part was I wore them to do exactly the same in them the following day. A true test of a well-made, well-designed, High-quality piece of footwear. 




'Ugg 'Boot Slippers

While I have a few pairs of slippers depending on the function and season, I was missing something that covered my ankle to provide warmth, as well as a practical sole to pop outside to the clothes line, or potter in the kitchen. So- while not UGGS, I did buy- on sale, some over the ankle sheep skin slippers. We are still very much in winter- with peeks of spring arriving daily, so they are a welcome coziness. 



So, while keeping with the full disclosure theme - I have also genuinely aquired a few other pieces over the course of a few months:

*A waterproof puffer jacket- in shocking pink! Mu daughter has outgrown it...and me!

* Two pairs of Lug Sole loafers, one tan suede, one ivory leather- a lovely friend purchased but were too small for her, but a perfect fit for me! 



* Two waterproof rain jackets- My husband treated me to, to keep me dry on my walks. 


Definitely a footwear thread running here me thinks..... But I always knew I was a bit of an Imelda Marcos 


OK, there we go, I've confessed. Onwards. 




 



 Savoring simple daily pleasures



A little bonus post this week: As I took my Saturday Walk to the village for coffee- as has become my savored and much anticipated weekend ritual, I pondered the qualities of how a day of mindful and intentional contentment might start, as we get ready for our days, and how this translates into how we present ourselves. I am in no way a fashionista, or even a follower of trends per se, but I do love clothing, I love quality fabrics and workmanship, and I enjoy feeling pulled together each day regardless the tasks ahead of me. We all love the feeling of that one killer outfit or pair of shoes we feel amazing in, and could rule the world in, why not cultivate that feeling in our every days- not just saved for special occasions. 

The layers we dress ourselves with on top of our secret glamour- the luxury of well-fitting quality lingerie, suited to our physique and in a style we enjoy for ourselves- are our foundational pieces. 


Whether we care to admit it or not, we consciously or unconsciously notice how someone is presented and their clothing choices when we meet them. It is usual for your eyes to make quick split second judgements, and observations - possibly even assumptions, before we have even opened our mouths to speak.  Regardless if we like this or not, it is fairly unavoidable in society - just as we eat with our eyes first before taking a bite when a meal is beautifully presented, or a cake thoughtfully and skillfully decorated-   How we choose to present ourselves is important and speaks volumes. And thus, how we are presenting ourselves is the cornerstone for how we conduct ourselves throughout our days. 

As a basic example- When I dress in my athleisure, or gym wear, I feel instantly energized, motivated and ready to go- accordingly, these garments are designed to move with you, and be comfortable and not cumbersome, and enable freedom of movement. Contrarily, a cozy turtleneck oversized sweater over perfectly worn-in stretch jeans sets the tone for comfort, warmth and relaxation. A stylish blazer over a crisp white shirt- I'm prepped, ready and feeling productive and professional. 

The key is, to have a commonality and signature style or look that links all the various functions and purpose of the varied styles clothes, while preserving your own unique identity. 

When picking out our clothes and composing our outfits, we are setting our intention for the day. 





1. A Classic Blazer. I have several blazers of varying weights, cuts, colours and fabrics in my wardrobe, but the classic, basic well-tailored, high-quality blazer is a timeless piece to elevate any outfit. Black, navy or tan. Paired over a pencil skirt, jeans and a tee, crepe pants or a floaty dress- providing an element of style, and a classic silhouette. Oversized blazers are en vouge at the moment but find a style, length and cut that flatters you, and stick with it until you are confident enough to play with it. 

2. Trench coat. Versatile, extremely useful, classic and timeless. Pick a length that works with your height and wardrobe- some are cropped some almost ankle length- as with the blazer they can be paired with a myriad of outfits, are lightweight, useful in most seasons, and add an element of chic- even with chucks. 



3. Well fitted jeans. No matter your style preference: skinny, high wasted, wide leg; find a brand, cut and style that works for you- the tasks you perform daily, the climate, and what makes you feel good. Be conscious of you stature and physique and accentuate what you have- for example a wider leg jean cropped above the ankle doesn't look good on every body shape. Find the one that speaks to you and makes you glow - and allows you to function adequately- and invest in a light and dark denim pair- and perhaps a saturated black and even a white pair too? 

4. Basic Tee Shirts. The better the quality the longer they last. A scoop or V neck can be more flattering but be mindful what you plan to pair them with. Black, White and light grey are a good starting point, and maybe in 2 sleeve length - and perhaps singlets for warmer months.  



5. Sweaters or cardigans. These depend on the climate you live in, in terms of how many you require-but a decent sweater can last years. I prefer  cashmere when the budget allows as wool ca irritate my skin- especially around the neck, but Cashmere can be expensive. Build your collection over time, keep an eye out for sales and bargains- even high quality pre loved. I picked up a red cashmere sweater recently for less than $30- handwashed and cared for in a mild wool specific detergent- I love it! I tend to stick to plain colours- no patterns or multicolor- perhaps a little detailing or cabling. Tan, black, charcoal/grey and a pop of something fun- pink, red, cornflower blue. 

6. Basic dress/ dresses. I have enjoyed wearing dresses year round for decades- varying the fabric, thickness, and style depending on the season and intended functionality.  A dress is a complete outfit in one. Pair with a scarf, a cardigan, a blazer or alone- with boots, ballet flats, heels, sandals or smoking slippers. Just beware of clinging fabrics, see through fabrics, and ensure you purchase a cut that suits your physique.  I love a belted denim dress with brown boots in the winter for a casual look, a linen floaty sundress in the heat of summer, and perhaps a soft button up shirt dress for spring.



7. Formal / evening dress. An LBD - (or not so little, or not so black) should be part of every ladies wardrobe. Go for a dark navy, a black, or perhaps a deep burgundy or forest green depending on preference or skin tone- but go for a classic silhouette if you are investing, making sure it can pair with varying heel heights and be worn under a shawl or coat or wrap.  Avoid pattered and fads and seasonal hem lines. Think Audrey Hepburn. And pearls. 

8. Skirt or shorts. I swore off shorts for years (and years!) but have since rediscovered that in the height of summer, when paired with the right top and a belt, tailored Bermuda style shorts can actually be quite chic- and are incredible practical. I adore the look of shorts and a blazer with perhaps a sleeveless silk blouse- but I haven't quite dared to pair that yet. I don't love my knees, so I'm honest with myself about that and know what length I feel comfortable- and confident in. Skirts throw a totally different vibe and can be worn year round in all kinds of fabrics, so pick a style you like for winter and then for hotter months, and invest in one or two when you can. I am loving a black pleated skirt with a leather jacket or long line cozy cardigan, and in the spring I'll bring out my button through linen. 



9. Button down shirt. If nothing else, pretty much everyone needs a classic high-quality crisp cotton button down shirt in their wardrobe. Year round. Totally versatile. Always chic. Wear open over a camisole, with tailored pants, under a blazer, tied up over denim cut offs. 

10. Scarves. The one item you will never, ever not fit. Go crazy. Silk, wool, cashmere, patterns, splashes of color, leopard. A scarf is pretty much always a good idea- and the finishing touch to so many outfits. When you feel you are missing an accessory or need to zhuzh it up a little.  

11. Nautical Tee. A la classic Coco Chanel. A nautical stripe boat neck tee is a classic to add interest and retain an element of fun while remaining classically stylish. Under a cardigan, a blazer, a denim jacket or alone. Always go horizontal stripes. Navy and white or black and white but have fun- Boden and Joules are my go to for quality and affordable luxury style. 


12. Fine Merino knit. We live in a sort of temperate climate here, but many homes and buildings are not adequately insulated for the colder days or harsh winds and bone chilling damp of winter. Thin, merino base layers are my Saviour. Even under a tailored fitter dress or a heavier sweater. Just a layer of warmth without the bulk. 



13. Denim jacket. So handy as a layer in spring and summer and even early autumn here- always stylish over a dress or linen wide leg pants. I'm not convinced by double denim though- sorry. Stick to one end- denim jeans or denim jacket. Youve got to be pretty special to carry off both and still look chic. 

14. Camisole. As a layer, under a blazer or cardigan or a peek of lace under a shirt with the top few buttons undone. I have 3 or 4 silk ones I have picked up over the years- they are delicious against your skin and elevate your outfit and feeling of style even when no one knows they are there. definitely worth the investment and when laundered properly will last many years. 



15. Shoes and Handbags. Okay, yep, definitely deserve their own category- if not an entirely separate post. And I have a not so secret shoe and bag obsession. 

At the very least you need the following-

A neutral clutch- suitable for evenings. A large leather tote sizable enough to fit a laptop/lunch/a scarf/ water bottle. A cross body bag in a neutral or an interesting leather- aligator/ leopard. and big enough for keys, wallet, sunglasses and a lippy. A straw shopper- for the farmers market.

And footwear:

Ballet flats- pointed or round toe -black or tan or both, knee high boots, and Chelsea style boots that can be worn with skirts or dresses too- at least one in black one in brown. a loafer or smoking slipper- go wild- leopard, zebra, olive- a pop of interest. A heeled sandal in neutral, black heels, a wedge sandal- suitable for walking, beach style casual slides- Birkenstock or such. Converse style chucks. A neutral flat sandal- I have been though several pairs of the Sam Edelman T strap sandals in Almond patient- they go with absolutely everything and you can walk MILES in them. and maybe a slip on woven leather mule as they are so versatile- wear with jeans, shorts dresses....

As you can see, I have serious trouble narrowing shoe choices down. But really, is too many shoes a thing?!

I will sign off this post there, a la Imelda Marcos, and perhaps look at a further list of lingerie and undergarments as well as outerwear next? 






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