Everyday Contentment

 "Deeper appreciation and deeper awareness of what we value and care for, increases quickly, and in abundance when we are awakened to how fortunate we were to have it in our lives in the first place"

Shannon Ables 



I read this tonight as I finally soaked in a somewhat ochre coloured bath after a dramatic, adrenaline fueled and quite extraordinary 24 hours.


As I so often find with my reading material, but especially Shannons, fate, luck or The Lord has it that what I happen to read on a certain day is uncannily apt and so appropriate and relevant to that exact day. 


We have just had sever flooding and slips and general devastation from unprecedented rain fall here in Auckland. The likes of which have never been recorded here before. To put an element of perspective on it, I learned on the news this evening that we generally consider 6ml of rain in a single hour "heavy rain" Yesterday we had 72ml in that time. 



Roads crumbled and fell away, gardens were converted to rushing brown torrents, intersections were fierce rivers with wheelie bins and cars bobbing about in them. Our own garden suffered considerable damage with our pretty trickling stream charging over its banks, taking grit, boulders, mud, logs and heavy garden furniture with it while carving a new path through our lawn and pushing our retaining wall over by a good meter.  Breathtaking, frightening and in a way Awesome- in its true sense of the word. The sheer force of the water to carry such debris, push past anything in its way or take it too.  

Heartwarmingly the sense of community was enormous. Many texts and messages- before and after we lost power, people bailing out neighbours, scraping drains with spades, directing traffic, offering advise and alternative routes, checking on wellbeing, seeing where help was needed most. Both last night as the storm raged and in the humid still of this morning as the neighborhood- and indeed the city, woke to survey the extent of the damage, the flooding, the aftermath. The predominant sounds of cars driving through rivers of water and sirens near and far. 

Tragically, some lost their lives. But most came together. helped, pitched in, donned gum boots and brushes and walked out to do what was needed. 



It has been a long day, we have helped neighbors' and community, strangers and friends- not one person complained. no one was cross or angry or bitter. it was a privilege to witness such humanity, such support, kinship and comradery. 


Much of the mess is still there, more rain is to come, but people have done what they can. To secure, make safe, clean and minimize.

Family and friends have reached out to check in and send love. 

I am so very grateful to have my home still, my cozy bed, electricity and my family safely here.

Our garden may be scared, but compared to many, our damage in minimal. But my heart is full.



There is still so much good in the world among the chaos , we just have to look for it. 

I am ready to savor my inviting bed, begin reading a new book, and look forward to a fresh new day tomorrow. 

 Turning a situation around

Savoring simple daily pleasures

I had a moment today. I could feel it building and my emotions running high- due to a myriad of reasons but lack of sleep a huge contributor.

My husband is currently over seas, my eldest is away with a friend, so for a few days its been just me and our younger daughter. 

Mostly, (apart from the slightly empty panic I always feel after an airport goodbye) it's actually been quite relaxed and we've enjoyed each others company and little rituals we've developed just for the few days. The weather has finally brought us summer back so we've been eating al fresco, taking evening walks together, snuggling up early in my bedroom for quiet time before bed and having a gentle time. 



I never sleep well when my husband is away- which is very infrequently luckily, but after a VERY early start to get him to the airport a few days ago, then disturbed sleep and waking even earlier than usual, my longed for bank of 8 hour restorative sleeps was lost, and my emotions ran high. 


When I awoke at 4.30am I'd already reasoned with myself I didn't have to run today, to listen to my body- it's important not to let fitness routines slip often, but equally important to embrace a gentler day occasionally. So I pottered down to the deck with my nightdress and a shawl, fed the cats, made coffee and finished my book as the sun rose and grew warmer. My favorite time of day. I was trying to be mindful and nurture myself, I changed after finishing my book and did some Yoga and took a shower. Good. right track. I can do this.....

I was also SO hungry. Unusually hungry- Famished! Which I've been battling of late and is out of character- especially in the mornings. So I prepared my self a substantial breakfast of "not quite" oatmeal with lots of added goodness and protein and fats to try and build my self back up- I always find a highly increased apatite when I'm over tired. (That and a niggly sore throat- first signs I'm running too low) 

It doesn't matter what the final trigger was (A sunscreen incident that did NOT warrant my over reaction)

But shortly after my giant breakfast and coffee I lost my temper and got very tearful and emotional. Totally unnecessarily so. My Poor darling girl got the brunt of it- although very short lived with much hugging and apologizing afterwards. 

Anyway, I was still in a bit of a state and highly emotional as we left to go to our local beach with one of my daughter friends. In fact tears were streaming down my face as I sat in the car. Something was a miss. 

Almost instantaneously as we parked and found a spot on the beach my anxiety and state began to ebb away. We found a grassy spot with the sparkling shore line not far from our toes, lay down and allowed the suns rays to beat down on us. 

I was then able to think clearly, breath deeper, and even analyze somewhat why I'd reacted so. 

After a while of baking myself and reading I left the girls chatting happily and took a walk to the end of the beach and back. At the furthest point there was not another sole and only dots of people in the far distance and a few silhouettes of fisherman on the wharf beyond the rocks where I stood.

I stayed there for several long moments taking deep, conscious breaths. Watching the gulls, listening to the gentle waves and the trickle of the waterfall behind me. All was well. My lungs filled and my heart soared.



Now, these blog posts are to uplift and  inspire primarily - so this is not intended to be a tale of woe or bring you down. It is about taking the time if you can, (And you must sincerely try)  to acknowledge your triggers, making space- physically and mentally to accept and deal with them, and finding all the wonderful things still very much present to be so grateful for. To appreciate. To savor. 

I was disappointed in myself as I felt I was letting my self down with such a fierce and gloomy reaction. But to flip it the other way - it was quite incredible that I was able to flip it around so quickly - from sitting in a hot car in 32 degrees with tears gathering at the bottom of my sunglass lenses, to feeling rejuvenated, alive and full of hope and promise- within less that an hour. 

Moments before I took the walk I happened upon a quote in the novel I was reading that had come to my attention through no less than 3 different paths in just a few days- a clear message for me. 

"If one advances confidently, in the direction of his dreams, and endeavors to live the life which he has imagined, he will meet with a success unexpected in common hours" Thoreau in WALDEN


If that's not a sign to stay positive and keep striving forward, I don't know what is. 

The change of environment was an enormous part of that healing and calming process. A big lesson for me. I was also able to reflect and be honest with my self about things that were troubling me before the tiredness had its unwanted affect. Things I wasn't quite acknowledging or allowing space. Too hard. Too unpleasant. Some resentment even. 

A dip in the ocean at the end of my beach walk was so refreshing and almost cathartic. physically and symbolically washing away those feeling and starting a fresh.

So when I took another walk later in the afternoon I was able to process and deal with those issues, decide on resolutions or ways to alleviate or solve them. So now, I sit here on my deck as the light fades, listing to soft jazz drifting out of the house, after enjoying a sumptuous meal I thoroughly enjoyed preparing and savoring, waiting for my daughter to arrive home - and I'm feeling boyant. Hopeful, positive. tomorrow is full of promise.


Now some peppermint tea and a shower to was the salt, sand and sunscreen off before- I sincerely hope, a restful, long sleep. 

Bon Nuit 


 Savoring Simple daily pleasures


I had a minor wobble this week- just momentary, but it got me thinking.

I had a birthday a few days ago - which although the number itself wasn't particularly significant, really made me take note of how fast the last year flew by. Having recently begun my 2023 diary and taken a minute to re read what I'd written as goals in my last years diary made me realize even more deeply that, time flies. 

Don't let it. Hold on to it a savor the present. 



As a child I was so eager to grow up. I couldn't wait to be old enough to have my ears pierced, drive, write a cheque (!) wear high heels and lipstick. Well, now at the tender age of forty something I can say to my youthful list - check, check, check and check. (Although I don't write cheques anymore as they are obsolete!)  

But I am choosing to look for all the good things yet to come, and anticipate, accomplish and achieve- with some good heath, luck and God's will, I am only half way though my life, and in so many ways we have done such an enormous amount so far, what's to stop us learning, developing, growing and continuing to reach for the future- for the next however many decades we are graced to be here!?

My Grandmother started learning the Italian Language well into her 80's. 

Only our minds, and maybe eventually our bodies, can limit us. Doubting yourself is normal, letting it stop you is a choice.

I am excited to embark on this new chapter, new season of my life. I cant wait to immerse myself in my writing, to finally get my written word out there in some capacity, to enjoy my growing and increasingly independent children, to take overseas trips and adventures with my husband or a dear friend, to cultivate a garden which flourishes, to SAVOR my simple routines and pleasures - like daily walks,  preparing a decadent sophisticated meal, taking a bubble bath, enriching my knowledge and reading lists. 

We have the power to CHOOSE to be optimistic, and positive about the years ahead of us. to take our lives and lead them to where we wish to go, not just allow them to unfold and accept them for what they are, but to have the courage to make change, go after a dream, and believe in ourselves. 

None of these things come without some inevitable worry, angst even, apprehension - but nothing can change in the direction we wish to go, just by willing it to happen. We have to work- to earn it. We have to in some ways embrace the fears and let them present themselves so we can be brave, and over come them. 

"Doubts in your mind are a much greater road block to success than obstacles' on your journey"

I'd do well to remember this too....


"The worst enemy to creativity is self doubt" SYLVIA PLATH



 Savor/ Save

These are the words I have chosen to inspire, propel and guide me through this year, 2023. 




To take the moments to savor, enjoy and appreciate my life and to earnestly save in all capacities. 

Save financially- I have some fairly lofty, but achievable, financial goals this year- if I can be consistent and disciplined.  I want to make it work- I want to relish the freedom it affords to know certain things are not hanging over me, to know there's rainy day money, and future proofing. I also know I am capable of being disciplined enough - I have already achieved goals that, for me, were pretty huge; giving up alcohol entirely, and maintaining a healthy lifestyle and regular exercise regimen. 


I also want to be mindful of wastage- I'm generally pretty good at using what food and fresh produce we have - but I can definitely be more frugal, and more mindful. I'd like to grow more in terms of herbs and other vegetables we can enjoy from the garden. In the past I've been guilty of both successfully growing plenty of what we wont eat, or enthusiastically planting seedlings to pretty much abandon them and leave them to fend for them selves. My Grandfather- an exceptional green fingered gentleman, would not be impressed. 


I'm looking forward to introducing a new regular routine of seeking out the local Farmers Markets on a Saturday, or walking up to the Village to enjoy a coffee and bringing home the newspaper and some fresh croissants from the exceptional Bakery. Supporting local. And I believe if I've invested my time and money in seeking these higher quality items, I will use them differently, give them greater regard than something I shopped online for from a vast grocery store chain, (possiblyincluding produce from Zimbabwe, Australia, Holland)- which was then delivered to my porch. That I didn't even choose myself from the selection in front of me.  

Needs must of course, and I became proficient and a frequent user of on line grocery ordering when I was working full time and didn't want my precious weekend taken up with a busy, stressful, supermarket trip: and then from necessity during the pandemic and lockdowns. It most definitely has its place. But I'm more than ready for it to take a less prominent one now. As long as I don't over buy because it looks so inviting and romantic or evocative of a rural existence- I must only purchase what we'll use/ need- and enjoy and SAVOR observing what else is on offer and displayed. 



Wastage with consumerism too- being mindful of buying things on a whim, clothing that's just on special but I don't really have space or need for. Another candle. Something that catches my eye at the grocery store,  an item someone has that I impulsively decide I'd like too. 

I would like to work on moderation and PATIENCE; saving for something and anticipating it, rather than more often than not, my burning desire to have it then and there. And how often does the sparkle and lure of that thing- whatever it was that we HAD to have, dull very quickly, and we don't desire it as much? In fact, it invariably becomes clutter or in a donation pile, It wasn't carefully considered and thought though. It was impulsive. I really need to work on that. Really. Ask my Husband.

I took a lovely walk with a friend and colleague this week,  and we discussed the merits of waiting and not paying full price. If you have some patience and foresight, if you can keep a little record of what you need for upcoming seasons with regards to your wardrobe in particular, what needs replacing, where there's a gap, you can be fairly savvy when it comes to buying on sale and waiting until items are reduced - or making big purchases during big sale discount weekend like Black Friday or Boxing Day sales. It so happened that my friend and I had both purchased the same beautiful, high quality, wool coat- in different colour's, (in a classic trench style, therefore seemingly a wise investments as it's timeless) and within two to three months it was reduced by a whopping 60%!! On a big ticket item that's a huge saving. And would have been well worth the wait. 

I am consciously being more mindful with my time and savoring precious moments. So often we don't realize how precious they are until they're gone.  This may simply be a quite moment enjoying coffee and watching a kingfisher on his branch from your deck,  taking deep breaths of fresh air, listening to the rain fall as you cozily read in bed, or watching your child tear open their Christmas stocking, the magic of Christmas twinkling around them, knowing one day, they'll be part of that magic in a different way. They'll grow up. 






Improving the quality of our everydays by shifting our perceptions of what they offer us.



Time to breathe, time to savor and time to notice all the little things around us. It’s so easy to get bogged down, not look up from the treadmill of our hectic schedules, and forget to take a moment, to notice, appreciate, savor and allow ourselves to be enchanted by lifes wonderful and plentiful delights and pleasures. 



One of my most favorite rituals at this time of year is to wake up when my body is ready- (I’m an early bird so this is usually well before 6am), I take a few moments to watch the trees from my bed and listen to the birdsong of the dawn chorus, then I head down stairs, greet my cats and give them breakfast, take a long drink of water, then take coffee outside on the deck- usually with my husband, and begin to let the day unfold. Feeling the breeze, the freshness and promise of a brand new day, watching the birds busily twitter and flitter- taking time to observe their habits and take some time to savor my coffee, my home and this moment. 

Its so uplifting, and makes me feel as tho anything is possible- which it absolutely is!  It sets me up mentally for the days tasks- feeling excited and enthused to enjoy every moment. 


Now, I live in the real world, as do you; and it is impossible to be happy ALL day- ALL the time- but its much less impossible, in fact its really very possible, to feel grateful, grounded and CONTENTED for much of it. 

We just need to train ourselves to shift our perceptions, find opportunities, and appreciate simple pleasures- like my piping hot espresso watching the native birds, or climbing into freshly laundered sheets at the end of a full and productive day. Im currently typing while a summer rain storm lashes at the open windows and the strong gusts of wind whistle through. I couldn't feel more contented.  This moment, right now, is perfect. It's exactly where I’m meant to be. 


I’m continuously having to remind myself and retrain myself to honor these precious pauses. 


I’ve learnt the hard way that not allowing myself a breath of air, some time with a book, enjoying a pot of tea or a rejuvenating green juice- results in debilitating stress on my mind and body. You can absolutely do it all- you just cant do everything at once. Life is made up of these moments - of everyday rituals and habits and chores- they all string together to make our life story- many more of them compile who we are than the big momentous events, as grand and as important as they are. Our every days are just that. Every day. 


Take a moment, right now, and look up, look around you. There will be something to be grateful for, to inspire you, to point you in the direction of what true contentment means for you, and the path you need to follow to arrive there. 






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